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Sunday, March 27, 2016

Matters of the heart - You are not alone


I went through an emotional roller coaster ride for weeks as I was consumed by my thoughts, doubts and fear. The society has always painted a beautiful picture of a wedding or a marriage. I now understood between the lines of "Marriage is a bed of roses", there's the thorns that it comes with. Yet why do I still feel so alone in this? No one warned me of the thorns. Scared, doubtful and anxious appears as a taboo around the word 'Wedding' as it often gets associated as a red flag that you're making a big mistake.

Grief of leaving your family/home, fear of financial instability over the wedding, confusion of a wife's or the in-laws's expectation, balancing your time between families and the list goes on. Truth is, it's in every individual to be filled with fear, doubt and anxiety as you are in the midst of a transitioning into the unknown.

It took me awhile to recognise what I went through was the infamous 'Wedding Anxiety'. So what now?

The marriage after all is between two people. Talk to your partner about it. *which I hesitated initially* I planned on diverting my focus towards the wedding planning instead. It didn't take me long until I couldn't contain it any longer and broke down. Alhamdulillah I am fortunate that Nazzmie was very understanding and assuring about it.

Keep the communication going at every step of the way. A wedding is just the beginning to an infinity of changes coming your way like your new home and the arrival of that little one. You are not alone.

2 comments:

  1. Talk to those who have recently been married, they can probably share a thing or two. hehe. cheer up deary!

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    1. Thanks babe, that will definitely help.

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